‘Your name is Bridge’: Personal call to reconciliation shared with whole church

Milissa Ewing felt caught between cultures growing up – an imposter – but God has called her to be a bridge between people and cultures.

Tenth Church’s senior pastor Ken Shigematsu spoke about Truth and Reconciliation September 17. Speaking with him was Milissa Ewing, pastor of family ministries. Following is her address, which is particularly timely as we look for ways to follow up on the Walk for Reconciliation and the Truth and Reconciliation Commission’s Calls to Action.

To listen to Ken’s sermon, and Milissa’s personal reflection, go here. The balance of personal anecdote, the commitment to justice and the devotion to reconciliation make it a compelling podcast. Christianity Today’s online journal Preaching Today is planning to feature the sermon October 30.

My name is Milissa Ewing. I am a descendant of Chief Joe Harris of the Namgis Band of the Kwakwakawak Nation. I am also a descendant of Annie Summers from England, of George Barr from Ireland, and Ole Loraas from Norway.

I am honoured to speak today about reconciliation, something that is close to my heart and central to what I believe God has called me to.

In a city like Vancouver, there are many of us – children of parents from different racial backgrounds. People who aren’t quite sure which ethnic box to check off on the census.

As a kid, there were moments where it was advantageous to be considered First Nations – like when the Aboriginal Education teacher would pull us from class to go to a pow wow or do some arts. There were also times when it was more advantageous to be considered Caucasian – like when the racial jokes would start up and the “Indian kids” were left out of birthday parties and cliques.

Generally, I tried to fly under the radar and not be identified either way.  But, people who don’t fit into a neat census category makes some uncomfortable.

When I was in the sixth grade my family lived in a small, racially-charged town. There was a huge divide between the townsite and the reserve. One day, while swimming at the public pool, I accidentally splashed another kid who yelled at me, “Go back to the reserve you dirty Indian.” At first, I looked around because he couldn’t mean me! I was flooded with shame when I realized that his comment was directed my way.

That same week, I tried to befriend a First Nations girl, Lisa, in my class and her mom told her, “Why do you want to hang out with that white girl from the suburbs?” What? White girl? Again, I thought, surely she thinks Lisa means someone else, but when I probed further, I realized that I was the white girl to whom the mom was referring.

This, and other incidents like this began to shape how I saw myself. I became someone who didn’t belong anywhere. As I got older, I learned to distance myself from anything First Nations because it was “safer” and more acceptable. But I was often reminded of my “otherness” – be it an inappropriate joke, racial profiling or “well, you’re not like the other Indians.”

I didn’t feel at home in either culture and a false identity took hold. I was someone who didn’t belong and even worse, I felt like an imposter – like someone always pretending. Without me even realizing it, a false name, a false identity took hold: Imposter.

Now, names are very powerful. In Aboriginal culture, names hold significant meaning. Ken mentioned Karen who was given a number instead of a name when she went to residential school, stripping her of her identity. We see now how many First Nations are reclaiming traditional names as a way of taking back what was stolen. My dad, George, has been reclaiming his First Nations heritage and is in talks with his cousins about a naming ceremony – a new name to signify his new identity.

Over the past years, I sensed God calling me to be his agent of reconciliation. Actually, sense is the wrong word. I have had my heart broken for the Aboriginal people in our country and I know beyond a shadow of doubt that reconciliation or conciliation is a big part of why God has called me to be a pastor.

But, as you can imagine, with that false name, Imposter, I have always felt a bit sheepish and uncomfortable with this. Even though in my work with First Nations students as a teacher, as I have been embraced by First Nations men and women, I always had this feeling like I don’t belong. When asked to weigh in on Aboriginal issues, I’ve wondered what God was up to – “You know, God that I don’t really have a valid voice here, right?”

But, names are very important to God, too. In the Bible, we read time and time again of God giving people a new name: Abram to Abraham, Jacob to Israel, Paul to Saul. A new name can signify a new calling, a new identity, an affirmation of purpose and meaning.

When Mark and Cheryl Buchanan came and spoke here last June, I knew that God was beginning to answer my 15 year old prayer to be a part of his reconciling work. I cried as I saw what I thought was impossible – drumming and praying in the Musqueam language from this very stage. I thanked Cheryl after the talk but confessed that I still wasn’t sure what my role was. That I have always felt like an outsider – an imposter – in both First Nations circles and Caucasian circles.

Cheryl paused. And then she said something like this:

I don’t really know you, so please forgive me for being so forward. I sense God wanting to tell you that your name is not Imposter. That’s a false name you’ve been carrying for too long and it’s getting in the way of his good work. God wants to give you a new name. Your name is Bridge.

The next day, I was speaking to my spiritual director, talking about something that I thought was unrelated – about different people who were not seeing eye to eye and how difficult it was for me to be in the middle. My spiritual director, like Cheryl the night before, paused and then said:

I am not sure if this means something to you, but I think God is calling you to be a bridge. He’s made you to be a bridge.

Then a few weeks ago, I met with a professor at one of the theological schools here in Vancouver, and as I shared some of my story, he exclaimed:

Well, it seems clear that God is calling you to be a bridge! What an opportunity!

At this point, my only thought is, “Okay, God. I get it. You’re not just asking me to be a bridge, but you’re naming me – you’re telling me something about who you made me to be.” So what does this actually mean?

A physical bridge is something that crosses the wide gulf that can separate people from one another. But, the gulf is not always geographic. Like the geographic separation between the townsite and the reserve that existed in that small town I lived in as a kid, there is often a larger relational and spiritual gap. A gap that can only be crossed through a relational or spiritual bridge.

As I ponder this new name, I am coming to realize that this is not just about my own personal calling. As God’s people, as his church, we are all called to bridge the gap between God and the world. We are all called to bridge the gap between those in conflict. We are all called to bridge the gap between Nations.

And I believe that we are all called now, at this particular point in Canada’s story, to walk the painful bridge between what was and what will be, moving toward a future where we will all be reconciled under one Creator God.

As I pray and ponder the new name that God has given me – the bridge – I invite all of you to pray and ponder as well. What does it look like for us to be the bridge? Will you join me in God’s reconciliation work in the world? Please join me in prayer:

Creator God,

The earth is yours, and everything in it,
the world, and all who live in it;

Your desire is that we would all be brought together

Under you, the one true God

You have given us the ministry of reconciliation.

God, reveal our hidden stereotypes and expose the obstacles within our hearts that would hinder the reconciliation work you want to do through us.

. . .

Creator, open our eyes to truly see one another as you see us. Give us desire to be in right relationship. Give us humble hearts to learn from one another and knit us together as one.

. . .

Father, give us a vision for your beautiful, multi-faceted church – where all people, every tribe and tongue would bow before you, united in worship.

. . .

Show us our part in this ministry of reconciliation you have called us all to. Speak into our individual lives and our collective community. Give us the wisdom and courage to act.

Fill us with your Spirit, Lord. May your will be done, your kingdom come

in your church,

in your city,

in your nation,

in your world.


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3 comments for “‘Your name is Bridge’: Personal call to reconciliation shared with whole church

  1. I knew Melissa Ewing as the wife of Jay Ewing, when they were working with A Rocha Canada in South Surrey, where I worked as a biologist.

    I’m pleased that she has found some solace in her revised identity. Yet, I wonder how her family and her husband Jay are doing as well. They were a lovely family, so I am curious to understand how this other side of her life is faring.

    Hopefully I can catch up with their family story, as I last saw them when Jay became an assistant pastor in Langley in ca. 2008.

    Blessings to them all

  2. I wish Christians would actually READ the rubbish content of the 94 demands put out by the TRC before they say they embrace it. I’m all in for reconciliation, but the 94 recommendations are not congruent to the concept of reconciliation at all.

    Here are some examples of what the report demands:
    – make it illegal to spank your kids in any capacity for any reason
    – reduce the number of Aboriginal people in jail regardless of the severity of crimes committed such as murder and rape
    – all universities and colleges must create a degree program in Aboriginal languages

    Plus many more demands which have zero relevance to reconciliation. Many Christians don’t even know what they’re embracing before they decide to embrace it.

  3. Really beautiful. In the Fraser Valley it often feels like you need to be Mennonite or Dutch to find a Church home. These ethnicities are celebrated from pulpits, even at churches that don’t bear these denominational names. The evangelical church desperately needs to open its doors to those with Native backgrounds.

    Often we do fly under the radar, but we are watching, we are listening: are we truly welcome? Reconciliation is based on respect, friendship and kindness – Christians, we should be leading the way.

    Great article, thank you for this great piece.

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